DH and I were actually having a discussion on proper dining out etiquette brought about by a December Reader’s Digest article. It talks about the 50 things your waiter or waitress would never tell you. One that sparked the segway into wedding rings was about how wait staff is willing and happy to create an experience for new customers especially at local restaurants that serve ethnic foods or fine cuisine.
DH mentioned that on his frequent work trips to Toledo, Ohio while working on a project at the University of Toledo they, DH, my brother (Tio) and DH’s nephew-in-law (P) would stop at a famous Lebanese restaurant called Beirut. The restaurant was newly open for lunch during the week which made DH very happy (and me very jealous – I love that place). The waitress that waited on them was delighted that they were so enthused about the food and that they were sharing a new experience with P. So, she brought them complimentary desert and coffee. The second time they were there she did the same. The third time she did again, but DH noticed she wasn’t as nice and he recalls the only difference is that the third time he was wearing his wedding band.
Typically, he doesn’t wear it if he is going to be working in the factory. This is perfectly OK with me. I really don’t want him to risk losing a digit just for the sake of wearing his wedding ring. His job has changed in the last couple years so he’s mostly in the office so he’ll wear his wedding band to work more often. He mentioned that he understands and appreciates the custom since the ring acts as a symbol to others of who is taken or not. People who respect that symbol will act accordingly. Then he asked, “Is this just a western custom? What do they do in the east or in Africa?” Uh, I don’t know. So it’s time to do some research.